1 Don’t try
The key to a good life is not giving a f* about more; it’s giving a f* about less, giving a f* about only what is true and immediate and important.
Feedback Loop from Hell
The Feedback Loop from Hell means you are becoming anxious about being anxious and angry at yourself for being angry, for example.
We have so much f* stuff and so many opportunities that we don’t even know what to give a f* about anymore.
The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience.
Alan Watts used to refer to this as the backwards law - The idea that the more you pursue feeling better all the time, the less satisfied you become.
You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.
Everything worthwhile in life is won through surmounting the associcated negative experience.
Accept negative emotions as part of life.
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*
Not giving a f* does not mean being indifferent; it means being comfortable with being different. The point isn’t to get away from the s. The point is to find the s you enjoy dealing with.
To not give a f* about adversity, you mist first give a f* about something more important than adversity.
It is impossible to not give a f* at all. And you have a limited number of f*s to give. Therefore, choose wisely.
Simplify your life by choosing carefully only a very few f*s. Less is More. Lose and let go.
2 Happiness Is a Problem
#3 You Are Not Special